How Tantra differs from Porn or the Giver Trap

This article touches on many of the issues I deal with in sessions with clients.

Many clients who are struggling with perceived ED problems or are looking outside their relationships for extra spice are in fact

coping with the inability to connect their emotional center to their sexual center. Sex and their lingam is something outside of them.

It has been compartmentalized. Sex is something to do to get off, not to experience intense pleasure.

Or the focus is on pleasuring the partner. What I hear over and over, I am a giver. I wonder If this is done because the person wants to maintain control or they are uncomfortable with their own pleasure. However, the giver position becomes a trap. The relationship, the intimacy is very one-sided. The pleasure that is meant for both people to experience is trapped. I found this article in one of my tantra groups. It explains the trap of being outside our body when we engage in sex when pleasure takes second place to other concerns.

I have a difficult time talking about this in a way that makes sense. But I have seen this so many times with clients. They are completely cut off from their fire chakra as we call it in Tibetan Tantra or their sex center. It is as if that area of the body exists without any integration into the mind and heart and emotional center of the man. This causes a lot of issues with the person, and with their partner. Sex is looked at as something dirty, something naughty that’s the way they can keep up arousal. However, when you focus arousal based on the idea sex is something dirty it is a lose lose situation. Sex is something wonderful and amazing. And I think most of us realize that and if we feel empty after sex it’s because we realize how much we are missing.

Great sex arises from a fully integrated self.

https://www.consciousreminder.com/2017/04/27/tantra-opposite-porn-learning-actually-intimate/

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